There was an episode on the hysterically acclaimed, "The Office" where Phyllis is having work related issues with Angela; where she is being mistreated and talked down to. If you don't watch “The Office”, wait...why don't you watch “The Office”? Anyway, Angela is condescending accountant who definitely has her funny moments; but she is sarcastically rude. With this being said, Phyllis and Angela work in different departments, but are essentially equals. In this particular episode, Phyllis googles and prints an article titled “How to Deal with Difficult People” -- determined to test out some bullet points on Angela. Needless to say, it did not work since Angela backfires with even more patronizing comments. But I feel inspired to share an experience I encountered years ago…grace me this opportunity to share my quick tips, Lol.
Now... is this an official guide? Absolutely not! Is it guaranteed to work for you? Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. I just feel it in my soul to share what I endured during a training experience. I'm a friendly person and sometimes I’m caught off guard when people are not naturally friendly. Being nice is different from being friendly; btw…looking into my mirror, I'm not always a people person. I enjoy the solitude of being alone to revel in the quietness of my spirit. Doesn't everyone need quiet time? I digress, but having people my age and younger talk down to me, in a condescending manner completely threw me off.
Most jobs require weeks of training before you are able to function on your own and just because you do your job well doesn't mean you'll be a good instructor. Regardless of expertise, there is still a proper way to communicate and correct peers and their work. People learn differently, and as a trainee you should not be subjected to blatant disrespect. You're a little lost in the sauce. So what, you are a newbie and processing takes time. Some suggestions:
- Take prayer breaks. I would literally ask God to help me in the middle of the day.... multiple times. I speak to God in public.
- Make sure that when you do your work, you do it DANG well. Don't be quick to finish just to finish. No sir. No ma'am. This ain't that.
- Do not be lazy. Enough said. Work twice as hard and prove them wrong.
- Ask questions when you do not understand. It's not better to guess when you're not the most experienced,
These few tips worked for me and limited then eventually eliminated the "constructive criticism" I received. I hope this helps if you are currently going through this or will refer back if you encounter something similar in the future.
The following scripture was originally for Timothy by Paul the apostle, and I took it an applied it to my dilemma because although not younger in age, I was younger in experience.
"Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity."
1 Timothy 4:12
Selah. (Pause and think on that)
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